When it comes to a budding new relationship, sometimes the most difficult things become the easiest thing. For most of us, saying I love you is usually a pretty daunting task. But when you’ve fallen in love and walking on Cloud 9, you make it a point to declare your undying love for your partner every chance you get.
But what happens over time when the honeymoon phase morphs into the less euphoric phase of real life? What happens after you’ve been together for some time and the novelty of a new relationship has worn off? Yes, you may still love your partner, but you both end up falling into a set of routines where you neglect to do the little things for each other.
Continuing to say “I love you” is great, but sometimes those three magical words you are so accustomed to hearing can easily turn into background noise among all of life’s demands and distractions.
“Action speaks louder than words.” And sure enough, this can be applied to romantic love. When it comes to expressing love, your words should always be backed with action and what you do will always count for more than what you say.
So it shouldn’t be hard for you to see that certain acts of love can have a significant effect in keeping the flame of intimacy kindled. It also shouldn’t be hard to see that you have the power to bring plenty of joy to into your relationship in just the little things that you do.
So without further delay, here are the top 3 ways to show your partner you’re still madly in love with them without having to say a single word.
1- PHYSICAL TOUCH. Physical touch is one of the most obvious of nonverbal ways to express your love for your significant other. You can choose to do this in a private or public setting (with modesty, of course). Private affection can be reserved for those times when you want a tender moment to share what you are feeling in your heart, and don’t want any prying eyes on your display. They are the moments, infused with the energies of just the two of you. Public affection can be a spur of the moment type of thing where your love requires expression without delay. Not to mention, you have no reservations in letting the world know just how much you love your partner from top to bottom.
You can use kisses, hugs, or any of the other unmistakable tiny displays that speak in volumes.
And I can’t leave out sexual intimacy, which combines all the other forms of physical affection and then some. Use this highly sacred act as a very creative means to express your love and the energies released will create a stronger, more loving bond between the two of you.
2- THOUGHTFUL GIFTS. The act of gift giving has always had special meaning in almost every culture throughout history. Even today, in our modern times, this ritual still holds a lot of value. And in love relationships even more so. Though it may be the most material of ways to express your love, for the most part, it is not materialistic.
Gifts are a great way to show your appreciation, to say thank you, or to even say you’re sorry. They can also be used to acknowledge a milestone, symbolize your commitment to each other, to share your blessings, or to share something that’s personal and just between the two of you.
Words, actions, and gestures tend to always disappear and become figments of the past. However a gift will usually stand the test of time. They are the symbols of love that we can hold preciously in the palm of our hands and keep in the most sacred spaces in our homes. Even though the flowers will die and the chocolates will get eaten- a small part of them can always be saved.
It’s in these tangible mementos that your partner will find reassurance when you are not there to fully express your love in person. Gifts are a binding physical reminder that you are loved and so is your partner.
3- ACTS OF SERVICE. Acts of service are acts of kindness. They are the little and big sacrifices we make just to make things easier for our partner or just to put a smile on their face. In them lies chapters of words that need not be said, because the actions always tend to speak for themselves.
It takes a lot of love for your partner to be the sole breadwinner while you to finish your education or stay home to focus on the children. It takes a lot of love when you take on all of the house chores for a time because your partner just isn’t feeling well. It also takes lots of love when you make your partner a cup of hot chocolate simply because you are making one for yourself.
Be happy for the chance to be of service to your partner whenever the opportunity shows up. And when those gender roles come into play, think hard before turning it into an issue. As with all non-utopian situations in life, we must always choose our battles wisely.
And for those of you who stuck around long enough to read this far, I’ve got a bonus one for you.
4- SPENDING TIME TOGETHER. Your partner is not only your lover, but also your best friend. But as with any best friend, you could never know them 100% inside and out. Neither will they ever know you 100% inside and out. Everyone is a work in progress. The question is do you care deeply enough to keep up with their progress?
If so, then the best way to do this is by spending time together. A text, email, or phone call just won’t cut it. You have to spend the time in person. A smile across the table, a gaze into each other’s eyes, the look of excitement, or the frown of disappointment cannot be experienced by any other means but in the presence of your partner.
These times when you choose to show up are some of the most valuable memories that you can add to your relationship bank account. Over time and with every deposit that you make, the richer will be your bank balance. If you can help it, never miss on an opportunity to make a deposit.
So sit with your partner in their time of need, even if it means sitting in silence. Book that weekend getaway for the house in the country. And call in a sitter and plan a fun date for Saturday night.
Remember, the power to beautify your love life lies within you. You can choose to ignore all expressions of love, and blame your partner for not meeting your needs, and then wonder why relationships never seem to work out for you. Or you can choose to let your guard down to make lasting expressions of love a priority, and then stand back to witness the magic unfold. The choice is up to you.
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