Upping Your Game
I have no tolerance for squalor, mediocrity, brutality, lack of integrity, or frumpiness. Call me a snob, but there are certain standards I must uphold for myself. After all, I am a God-Being.
How many of us use the excuse of not having enough time or money to create beauty in our homes, maintain our bodies, or spruce up our wardrobes? How many of us are waiting for that perfect man or woman to walk into our lives before we start expressing our personal style and embracing ourselves with love? How many of us are waiting for that perfect body, that perfect house, that new job, that raise, or that tax return? We use all sorts of justifications to stunt our growth, stall our happiness, and postpone being the greatest versions of ourselves. While life passes by, many are telling the universe they’d rather settle for less. Don’t conform to the norms of your society by living a dull, undistinguished, and mediocre life. Express the creative and magnificent being that you truly are. Stand tall, stand proud, and start to celebrate the Higher You today.
If the universal mirror of life is to smile back at you, you must always be willing to smile first. Therefore, take command of your life, raise your standards, and take a stand for dignity!
1- Mind Your Space. Ever heard of the term “don’t sh_t where you eat”? Yeah well, that’s really all there is to it. But since I love you, I’ll say much more.
You are not an animal. So don’t live like one. Your home says a lot about who you are, where you are in life, what goes on in your mind, and what you think of yourself. Are you hoarding up a bunch of crap? If so, then it’s time to get rid of all the clutter. It’s time to bring order into your life. Make your home visitor friendly. Make it charming and welcoming. Make it neat and make it tidy. Keep it clean and accept nothing short of beauty, order, and cleanliness!
There are numerous methods to beautifying your home without having to spend so much. Use what you already have and simply spruce it up. Start by deep cleaning the carpet or upholstery. Change the drapes, shower curtains, or light fixtures. Refinish or paint your kitchen cabinets. Paint the walls a fun new color. Add artwork, new rugs, new bedding, pillows, or slipcovers. Paint your furniture, add houseplants, burn candles, and get as creative as can be.
What’s up with the homeowners and apartment dwellers using their yard or balcony as some kind of storage solution? Like really??? They’ve got bikes, old furniture, and all this other crap out there. Do yourself a favor. If you have some outdoor space whether it be a balcony or yard, please take the time to make it beautiful. Your outdoor areas are an extension of your indoor area. Make no attempt to neglect this important space. Start a garden and turn it into a beautiful oasis. Flowers will especially wake up the place. For less than $50, one can make out like a bandit at Home Depot. Balcony dwellers can have a full-fledge container garden growing out there. If on a tight budget, grow your flowers from seed. Some fast growing flower seeds are morning glories, petunias, and of course marigolds! Use propagation methods for other plants. I’ve done real well propagating spider plants and those gorgeous chartreuse-colored sweet potato vines we see all over throughout the summer. Lastly, be sure to add a small seating area to your garden, patio, or balcony for that finishing touch
Do as much as you can to make your home as enjoyable as possible. Get ideas from books and magazines. Make a list of all that needs fixing. And then get started for pete’s sake! Time is passing you by. Remember it’s your home. It is where you will spend half your life. It is a true expression of you. You want it to express your inner beauty, not your inner madness. You want to live in dignity!
2- Mind Your Words. Watch your mouth, buster! Just what kind of things are you saying about me? Most importantly, what kind of things are you saying about yourself? Do you really think you’re getting away with all your negative self talk? Do you really think it doesn’t affect your self respect. Think again. Those mental words are also a part of this equation. Thoughts are things. Words are things. Do you find yourself jealous of others or do you wish the best for everyone? Busy backstabbing and gossiping about the latest scandal? Whether to yourself or out loud, our lovely and ever faithful universe is jotting down everything that you think and say, then reflecting it all right back at you. So speaketh proud, speaketh confidently, and speaketh well!
3- Mind Your Actions. Your word is law. Make this a non-negotiable in your life. This means keeping all promises you’ve made to others and all promises you’ve made to yourself. If it’s not possible, then acknowledge it and let the other person know. Let your words be backed by your actions. Otherwise, go down as a weak, wishy-washy individual who lacks integrity. Always act with poise and with grace. No need to make a spectacle of yourself. You are confident in yourself and you are what you are with nothing to prove. Show love and affection to those willing to accept it from you. Be generous and kind to your neighbor. Help a friend in need, genuinely care about others, and never forget those who helped you when you were down. Treat others with dignity and respect, as you would like others to treat you. The amount of high-vibrational energy that you put out is exactly what will be returned to you tenfold.
4- Mind Your Food. Your stomach is not a garbage dump. So don’t treat it as such. What we put into our mouths makes all the difference. The question is are you eating to live or eating to die? When you know you’re worth it, you know your body deserves only the best. So eat well and eat the best.
Eat the foods that will have your body performing at it’s peak performance. If you don’t know what they are, well then it’s time to find out. Make it your business to know your body inside and out and the foods it will thrive on. The information is out there. Make it a priority. When you seek, you shall find the answers. You cannot be on your way to greatness while at the same time sabotaging your body. Your body is the home where your spirit dwells throughout its sojourn on planet earth. Without it you cannot complete your mission. The junk food, the heavy cholesterol laden animal products, and the alcoholic beverages are all forms of abuse and gradual but sure ways to sickness and early death. Don’t fall prey to the tactics of the food industry. Don’t be a victim of the medical industry. They’re just waiting to get their hands and scissors on you. Don’t wait to be kind to your body. Do it today. Your mission is worth it and you are worth it.
5- Mind Your Attire. Appearance does matter. It may sound superficial, but your attire tells others how you see yourself. It is one of the unspoken methods we use to express ourselves unto the world. Your appearance not only talks to you, but talks to other people as well. How can you expect to be well-respected when you don’t care to show others that you respect yourself? Don’t sell yourself short on your appearance anymore than you would on your intelligence. Make sure your dress reflects the type of person you want to be. Look your best and you will think and act your best. Dress up for those important meetings, dress up for that dinner date, or even for that trip to the supermarket. Look like a gentleman. Look like a lady. Make sure all is neatly tucked in, coordinated, and ironed. Spruce up your wardrobe. Take that suit to the tailors and give it that tailored fit. Polish your shoes. If you’ve recently lost weight, make sure your clothes aren’t hanging limply off of you. For the ladies, add a pencil skirt or form fitting blazer to your wardrobe. They work wonders for that classy look. Throw out those tattered and torn jeans or that old dingy dress. Lay your clothes out the night before if you must. On a budget? Use Ebay and thrift shops to your benefit. Both are a chock-full-of-awesome finds at awesome prices. Some even with the original tags attached. Look sharp, look sophisticated, and look like a star without all the headaches that come with being a star!
6- Mind Your Funk. Don’t mean to sound like your mother, but it never ceases to amaze me just how many people (adults mind you) still don’t have a clue about this. Just as your appearance matters, hygiene counts even more. Assuming that most of us in the Western world who are reading this already take daily baths, then I would like to discuss some of those finer details. Those that have the potential to make life miserable for yourself and others if not handled correctly. To me there is nothing worse than getting a whiff of someone’s dragon breath because they forgot to brush their teeth that morning. It can literally knock you out! And what about B.O.? Can you stand it when someone infiltrates the room with their signature scent? Always be sure you are eating the healthy foods that keep those body odors under control. If not, then the application of a natural deodorant should be sufficient.
Keeping up with the manicures and pedicures? Nails trimmed and clean underneath? Legs shaven? Wax out of the ears? Hair neat and tidy or beard neatly groomed? Cosmetics, perfumes, and after-shaves kept to a minimum?
Contrary to what some may say, we are not animals or sophisticated monkeys. We are spiritual beings having an ultimate experience in a human body. No one is all that interested in seeing or smelling most of the things our body produces. That, my lovely, is proudly ours to own and not to be shared with anyone else. Therefore, kindly keep it your personal business and your business alone.
7- Mind Your Partners. It’s good to be picky and it’s good to be selective when it comes to choosing a sexual partner. In this case, less is always more. Just because you are single does not give you an all-year pass to spread your seed or spread your legs to just about everyone. Your body is a temple and not to be shared with the entire world. Sex has a way of binding us to others and transferring not only body fluids, but our energies too. It has the potential to open us up to all sorts of ghastly energies. Choosing our partners wisely and choosing our partners sparingly is the key to a dignified sex life. Always make sure your partner is clean, make sure they’re sane, make sure they respect you, make sure they love you, and make sure they wanna stick around. Preserve your sanctity and your dignity. If you don’t currently have a committed partner, be patient for him/her to enter your life. If you’re single and you think you are not having enough sex, then you have fallen for a lie. This is all media hype. Do not get entangled in it. These words are not coming from a prude, but from someone who happens to love sex very much, but finds it so much more enticing and so much more gratifying when there is pure love and commitment involved. When the world becomes in touch with theirs hearts and committed to love again, it is then we will make love before sex a priority.
We are all Gods, and any God would carry themselves with the utmost decency and dignity. Any God would be selective of who it chooses to express this most sacred loving act with. Do not cast your pearls out to the swine. Be selective. You are worth it. You are a God!